Hook up at conference, recent comments
He said some pretty nice things about my research and suggested some potential collaborations, then he started complimenting my personality and my body. AA, your topic train is now so far off the track that we'd have to call in several disaster relief funds to clean up the mess and relocate several communities of thought just so that they avoid any toxic exposure. As a gay man, and hook up at conference science conference attendee since I started graduate school in the Pleistocene, I've been on both ends of the borderline-inappropriate sexual advances.
Even though selling fruit is a perfectly innocuous act in and of itself, there are contexts where it's not appropriate, or at least confusing and unhelpful, to do it.
This sub is aimed at people either 1 in an affair or 2 thinking about affairs. I certainly don't want to carry on a petty argument on this, but No one is trying to stop you from flirting in an appropriate manner, if you are not making other people uncomfortable.
Not necessarily the physical flings between people who meet at an academic conference -- but the what I think of as "special" sexually tinged though not nec. If you meet someone you actually really like and change your mind, you can always slip that ring off surreptitiously.
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Is there a good term for the conference hookup? The remaining bad actors can then be dealt with using harsher means.
You get branded and some talk goes around, fair enough. According to the American Psychological Association, "evidence suggests that both pleasure and reproductive motives may influence these sexual patterns, as seen in participants' reactions following uncommitted sex.
The predators have to be de-normalized. Most these social media hooks up at conference are identity profiles, public thought disposals, and virtual photo albums of oneself, where other's are just a click away from cyber analysis of how that individual displays themselves physically, sexually, psychologically, emotionally, and mentally on the internet.
We are constantly trying to formulate how to live our lives with reference to how other's are living their lives. I am loath to go down this road, and I admit the scenario is very unlikely and unrealistic, but I have a small hope that it will serve a purpose:.
But the guys are just behaving in the way society requires them to behave in virtually all other contexts. You need to maintain plausible deniability.
You'll make far fewer people uncomfortable, and if there is one lesson to be learned from this post and the bulk of the comments, it's that people using the captive audience of conference attendees as a singles bar makes others very uneasy, uncomfortable, and unsafe. Dear reader, the point is, I speak from experience: Don't do it, any of it.